Ivory, White or…? The Rise of Nontraditional Wedding Dress Colors

Ever since Queen Victoria made white wedding gowns all the rage, white gowns have taken on the symbolic meaning of purity to the extent that in some religious traditions even ivory is frowned on and may raise an eyebrow of suspicion regarding the bride’s virtue.

Fortunately, times are changing and today it’s not uncommon for brides to have cream gowns with white lace in order to highlight the pattern of the lace and, thanks to Jessa Duggar, blush wedding dresses are becoming more and more common.

Ivory Cream Lace Tulle Modest Wedding Dress Train
Our modest wedding gown Ophelia features cream lining on the bodice in order to highlight the beautiful pattern of the lace.

Despite this gradual trend towards cream and blush, lately we’ve had several customers order completely nontraditional-colored wedding dresses. Intrigued, we asked them to share their wedding dress journeys.

Cynthia’s Black Wedding Dress

Cynthia's Black Wedding Dress
Photo by Albarran Studios of Houston, Texas

1) When you first started looking at wedding dresses, did you have a more traditional white or ivory gown in mind or were you always drawn to a color that more reflected your personality and tastes?

I have always known I wanted a different dress. Me and my husband have been together since High School and have two kids together. So I knew once the day came, White was not a part of my selection. I had initially thought of champagne as white, at least traditionally, represented purity. At least from what I was taught. As I kept looking I just felt like what was just blah. While yes it’s gorgeous and traditional, it wasn’t a part of my dream wedding. So as time goes by and more people don’t go by the old school rule, my idea of a wedding dress evolved.

When me and my husband decided on Halloween, I knew it had to be black. Not just cause black is what dominates my closet but also for what it meant to wear a black dress in Spain. My great grandpa is from Spain. In Spanish culture, women wore black on their wedding day to represent “Hasta que la muerte nos separa” – Till death do us part. Although I wasn’t raised in Spanish culture (But was raised with Mexican culture) I did love the symbolism of it as me and my husband have been together for 18 years.

Figured we ain’t going anywhere and well what better time then the end of the world lol. We also included an ofrenda which is part of Mexican culture in which an altar is made for those that we have lost and items they enjoyed in life. My father in law passed away in August due to COVID. We included him in our wedding with my husband holding his photo walking down the aisle and on our ofrenda with all our loved ones. So this wedding for me was more than just two people coming together to complete the family but also to symbolize our past 18 years together. What all we have been through in those 18 years. Good and Bad.

2) What made you fall in love with your gown?

The shape!! I was torn on a mermaid dress and a fit and flare. This one gave me the best of both worlds. I actually had it designed for me through etsy and honestly couldn’t have been happier. I knew it was going to be impossible to find what I was looking for, let alone a black wedding dress!! So the fact that this is a design I’ve mixed and matched makes it that much more memorable to me. And with your help, got the exact flow of the dress I was going for.

3) What advice would you give to other brides considering “breaking the bridal mold” as it were, especially if they have more conservative parents or faith traditions?

Honestly just got with what makes you happy. It is different times. Make your day as unique and as beautiful as you are. People will understand when they see it all come together and at the end of the day, you have to do what fits your personality and taste!

I LOVE Halloween and have a small obsession with Tim Burton and the Nightmare before Christmas. I’m sure some people would even think I’m gothic but not at all. I just don’t fit any mold and I am one of my own. I wanted vibrant colors in my wedding to represent the holiday and I wanted what was me in a classy way. I am so glad I did. People questioned my Hallowedding but when they saw it come together they were in aww. Not only on the small budget I had, But also how beautiful it all still looked. If there is any advise I would give is DO NOT TRY AND PLAN YOUR OWN WEDDING IN A TWO MONTH WINDOW BY YOURSELF!!!

It is a stress like no other and there is no relaxing!! For me, I enjoy crafting, interior design and event planning but I would not ever want to do that again. Lol. So very thankful to my family who came to my rescue the last week to have someone else set up for me cause that surely would have been a disaster.

And yes you may use any of the photos. Only ask for a shoutout to Albarran Studios of Houston Texas for the photo credit. I wish I had better photos without the petticoat. Let me know if you need anything else and thank you for everything you did with the petticoat and for including me in your blog. 🙂

Meg’s Black & Red Ombre Gown

Black Red Ombre Strapless Wedding Dress
Meg looked simply gorgeous in her black and red gown, that features an ombre skirt from burgundy to red at the hem.

1) When you first started looking at wedding dresses, did you have a more traditional white or ivory gown in mind or were you always drawn to a color that more reflected your personality and tastes?

When it came to my dress journey I had originally wanted a different dress completely; I then decided against it due to multiple reasons such as color, abnormal size charts and the fact I found out they closed down and didn’t refund anyone for dress purchases, then left their employees unpaid. I was grateful I never went through them, so I the decided to look to see what dresses I could find with my theme colors and came across a dress from the wish app that then led me to Etsy and then to you.

2) What made you fall in love with your gown?

I fell in love with the style of dresses you sold because they weren’t complicated like the modern brick and mortar store ones you see today; they were classy, elegant, simple and could be dressed up or dressed down, and it was the style I liked: A line dress with a light flow effect with a sweetheart neck line. The second I got it…I fell in love due to the corset backing and the fact you went the extra mile and got a bra in my size and included it inside the dress. It fit so well it was like a dream come true….everyone loved it.

3) What advice would you give to other brides considering “breaking the bridal mold” as it were, especially if they have more conservative parents or faith traditions?

The advice I would give is simple: BE YOURSELF!!! Wear what you know you will be comfortable and know you will feel beautiful in, you should never let anyone tell you what they think will look good on you. You are a Queen and you should look as bold, beautiful, and regal as you feel. Queens can slay in whatever color as long as they are happy, not everyone chooses to wear mom’s dress and that’s okay to make that choice.

4) When you rewear your wedding dress, how do you want to style it?

When I am able to wear the dress again, I will be adding a decoration to the waist, a beautiful necklace and a simple pair of gloves, the rest is a secret!!!

Sandie’s Dusty Blue Wedding Dress

Dusty Blue Tulle Modest Wedding Dress
For Sandie’s big day she chose a tea-length, dusty blue gown. 

1) When you first started looking at wedding dresses, did you have a more traditional white or ivory gown in mind or were you always drawn to a color that more reflected your personality and tastes?

Well, I never considered getting a white dress. I guess I’ve always been unconventional and needed a dress to reflect that. I really just wanted to have a dress that I thought was beautiful.

2) What made you fall in love with your gown?

The dress is so beautiful…I think it is the lace up back that really sold me. It is a dress straight out of a fairy tale.

3) What advice would you give to other brides considering “breaking the bridal mold” as it were, especially if they have more conservative parents or faith traditions?

I think my advice would be that this is your day-not your parents’ day. Make it what you want!

4) Have you ever gotten to rewear your wedding dress?

I haven’t re-worn my dress because I haven’t had a “special enough” occasion!

Rose Gold White Modest Wedding Dress Flutter Sleeves
While white or ivory are the most traditional options for wedding gowns, blush gowns can be exquisite as well!

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